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Submissiveness in marriage

    The topic of women being submissive in marriage has been one that has drawn a lot of negative reactions from women in recent years. I believe this could be as a result of bad leadership from some men, the influence of social media on relationships, differences in eras in relation to women’s progression in the work force or society amongst other reasons. However, this topic is a sensitive one and one that goes beyond couple of reasonings that may fuel the negative connotations.  Couple of months ago, I had a conversation with a colleague who is a woman and our discussion centred on roles of women and men in a marriage. She argued that women and men are equal in a marriage and there is nothing as submissiveness that should be expected from a woman and that the man is not the leader or head of the household. So is this true? Are these the feelings or sentiment shared by women in marriages or those seeking to be in marriages? Although, I believe that God is the author of marriage and t
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If you have read any of my blogs, you would know how I always emphasize the importance of relationships in our existence. Relationships not only gives meaning to our existence, but it also drives our daily routine and life. Our survival, adaptation and ability to exercise our emotions all stem from our engagements in different relationships. Therefore, it is safe to say that relationships play a key role in our lives. Every relationship we form with people is imperative to our growth as an individual, because those relationships in my many ways depicts who we are as a person. Our relationships with others may be important but the most important relationship we could ever form is the one we have with ourselves. Although, this is the most important relationship and the one that requires most of our energy and intentions towards building, it is the one we shy away from the most. We go into relationships with many people without actually having a proper understanding of who we are as a p

My unique experience in an assisted death of a patient

 Most people would define death as the end of life but I'd say it is the beginning of a journey into a place unknown. I have experienced a fair share of death in my nursing career. Patients who were declining, and I was part of a team that tried to resuscitate patients who died all of a sudden. In each of those situations, I was dealt with emotions surrounding what happened and ways if any, that I could apply in the future to prevent a recurrence. Nevertheless, the most recent case of a patient of mine and her process of death was a different one. I was placed in a privileged position to play an integral part in assisting in one of my patients to die. Most commonly, known as euthanasia. This is now referred to as Medical assistance in Dying (MAID) and legal in Ontario. I was told a day prior to the scheduled procedure, and assisted in ensuring this patient had a vascular access for the medication administration. The transport to the medical imaging lab with my colleague, a nurse pr

50/50: The mathematics of marriage?

 I spent some time with my mum today. We talked about a lot of things that revolved around me and life in general. The topic of marriage came up and we talked about how marriage and the idea of marriage had evolved over the years. Marriage back in her time and that of her parents or grand parents were based on the very basic things that mattered back then. Men chose to marry women who were polite, had a nice smile or simply just because they came from a good, reputable family. Those were the simpler times. Times when the parameters set for a mate can be argued to have been based on quality over quantity. Nowadays, marriage is a whole different ball game.  I believe everyone knows that marriage is a union of two souls to become one. However, some people going into marriage don't understand that it is a not a transactional relationship but one that is meant to collectively pull singular resources together to achieve an expected goal. This is because some women believe that the man is

YOUR HEALTH MATTERS, BLACK PEOPLE!!!

For a human being to be fully functional in daily activities, he or she has to be sound in all 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, social, financial, vocational, emotional, spiritual, intellectual and environmental. Some human beings are functional in their day-to-day activities without being sound in all areas of wellness. When these dimensions of wellness in a person are not well maintained, such individual run on fumes like a car that has not had an oil change in a long time. The fast-paced nature of the world today makes it hard to maintain all those dimensions of wellness especially right now with the pandemic of coronavirus which currently has affected over 15 million people globally. Though this pandemic seems a significant issue that affects humanity, there is also another pandemic that has been a chronic terror in the black community. That is police brutality on black men and women. Police brutality and other effects of racism on black people for so long has crippled our prog

Date night fantasies POV

I know I have not been blogging for a bit. I did this for many reasons as I try to reinvent myself in writing. I just came up with this poem/erotica, well at least that's what I will call it for now and I figured I share and take your mind off the terrible situation the world is in with COVID-19. Enjoy the read. Stay SAFE! Date night fantasies POV I  think about picking u up and you're dressed in a silky dress that hugs to your body like cotton to hair strands. We go out and grab a bite. I bite and lick my lips as I stare across the table and behold your beauty. I picture my tongue all over your body but I hold back as my being becomes erect and my pants feel tight. The waiter approaches our table after our meal and asks, " do you guys want to look at the dessert menu?" I make a wish that you say no because I hope we can be each other's dessert tonight. You say no. We head to the car and just as I open the door for u, u turn around and I kiss u. We kiss for mi

Life will beat you down

This month has been a tough one for me since I have been called on by various friends to be there as a support or as an advice lender to get them through one situation or the other leaving me in a state of not knowing what to post for this month as a blog. So here goes nothing. Hopefully, the following paragraph of sentences blesses someone. Remember when we were little children and we craved adulthood so much that we hated the idea of being called kids or children. When our parents would say things like, "let me help you get dressed or let me help you with your bath" , we would reply, "I can do it myself". I'm a big boy /girl or simply, I'm big now were the phrases that followed suit. No one could blame us because adults seemed cool. It only seemed like they got it all figured out and knew something we did not know. They seemed grounded in life and were able to manouver through life with great poise. Little did we know that we had misjudged the book