Sex
has been an activity we have invested in from the beginning of time. That
dirty, secretive, heart racing, sheets wrinkling, bodies-colliding deed that we
engage in, but dare not talk about in public. This three-letter word plays a
major role in the world we live in today. It has strong ties to our society-
its existence, longevity and foundation. Although, sex is essential in any
intimate relationship, it sometimes is not effectively put to work by couples.
People have sex for different reasons. Reasons could include love, attraction,
lust/carnal desires, rebellion and so on. However, the focus here will be for
couples who are in a relationship or want to form a relationship with a sex
life that is nowhere near boring. Now, foreplay
is a word that comes to mind when we are asked of how to make sex better and
more passionate. That is correct. The only problem is that many people do not
know what foreplay is or how to correctly implement it. Knowing the definition
of foreplay is different from actually knowing what it entails or where and
when to practice it. In my teenage and early adult years, I thought foreplay
was kissing, necking, fondling and so on. Boy was I wrong! What is foreplay
then? Well since the ‘play” is sex and “fore” refers to before, it is clear to
say that foreplay precedes sex. Therefore, kissing, necking, fondling and the other
things, most people believe to be as foreplay is not foreplay since those are
already forms or parts of the play. The actual foreplay takes place outside the
bedroom. Simple things like calling your spouse or partner on the phone to
check in on their day or just to hear their voice are forms of foreplay. Other
examples of foreplay that couples can engage in are reading a book together,
planning game or date nights, taking a walk, taking trips together, holding
hands, flirting with each other, or simply complimenting each other’s
appearance. Making each other laugh is
one of the greatest foreplay and this is beneficial more to the women than it
is to men as studies have shown that humor makes a woman achieve orgasms during
sex. This may be the reason women are more attracted to men with a good sense
of humor. Obviously, not all men are funny and if being humorous is not your
strongest suit, invest in other forms of foreplay or simply snoop around on
YouTube and fish out funny videos and enjoy the laughs with your spouse/partner.
The list of foreplay goes on but my guess is that you get the idea. Investing
in foreplay is what distinguishes ordinary sex from passionate sex especially
in a long-term relationship when the honeymoon phase of the relationship is
long gone. So, go ahead and weave foreplay into the tapestries of your
relationships and let sex be the dessert.
If you have read any of my blogs, you would know how I always emphasize the importance of relationships in our existence. Relationships not only gives meaning to our existence, but it also drives our daily routine and life. Our survival, adaptation and ability to exercise our emotions all stem from our engagements in different relationships. Therefore, it is safe to say that relationships play a key role in our lives. Every relationship we form with people is imperative to our growth as an individual, because those relationships in my many ways depicts who we are as a person. Our relationships with others may be important but the most important relationship we could ever form is the one we have with ourselves. Although, this is the most important relationship and the one that requires most of our energy and intentions towards building, it is the one we shy away from the most. We go into relationships with many people without actually having a proper understanding of who we are as a p
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