Love 365

It's February. Although it's the shortest calendar month, it is a special month because it is black history month - a month in the year that is used to reflect on the history of black people, their heroes, their past, their present and the future. In the month of February, the culture and the significance of the black people in the society are highlighted. The month of February also determines the classification of the current calendar year i.e a leap year. February is also universally known or referred to as the love month since it houses the day couples and families all over celebrate as valentine's day. It's a day set aside annually to make that special person in your life feel special.  Personally, I do not agree with celebrating someone special on one day as I see Valentine's day as a holiday that enriches the pockets of corporations and businesses.  I believe that appreciating those you love or cherish should be done on a daily basis no matter how small that appreciation may seem because they deserve that and also because it may the only chance you get to do so since tomorrow is never promised. My other criticism of valentine's day is the fact that the man in any relationship is the one that is expected to plan something romantic to celebrate the woman or the female in the relationship. I have witnessed some relationships affected because the man forgot to plan something special or did not take the date seriously. I disagree that planning a romantic night or date should only be the man's job. I believe it should be a two-way street because a relationship just means relations between two people sharing the same manner of love. Every couple agrees to the aforementioned statement but however the reality is slightly altered. My blog for March will deal on the double standards in relationships.  However, it is important for females in relationships to plan romantic dates for your mate even when you feel he may not be romantic at heart or good at remembering to plan a romantic date. There's nothing wrong in a female planning a date night for valentine's day or any other occasion. Romantic gestures done for each other can ignite a spark in a stale relationship. For instance, surprising your man with a bouquet of flowers delivered to his workplace or at home with a love note goes a long way to solidify your relationship and also remind him of the significance of expressing love. Always love one another January to December and the days in between. Practice love 365 days a year and watch your relationship flourish. Although, I disagree with celebrating love or expressing love on a day designated according to societal stipulations, I would like to use this medium to wish avid readers of my blogs that will be celebrating the 14th of this month with that special one, a very joyous and happy Valentine's day.