Relationships - you make it or break it!

 I spent some time with my mum today. We talked about a lot of things that revolved around me and life in general. The topic of marriage came up and we talked about how marriage and the idea of marriage had evolved over the years. Marriage back in her time and that of her parents or grand parents were based on the very basic things that mattered back then. Men chose to marry women who were polite, had a nice smile or simply just because they came from a good, reputable family. Those were the simpler times. Times when the parameters set for a mate can be argued to have been based on quality over quantity. Nowadays, marriage is a whole different ball game.  I believe everyone knows that marriage is a union of two souls to become one. However, some people going into marriage don't understand that it is a not a transactional relationship but one that is meant to collectively pull singular resources together to achieve an expected goal. This is because some women believe that the m...

I know I have not been blogging for a bit. I did this for many reasons as I try to reinvent myself in writing. I just came up with this poem/erotica, well at least that's what I will call it for now and I figured I share and take your mind off the terrible situation the world is in with COVID-19. Enjoy the read. Stay SAFE! Date night fantasies POV I  think about picking u up and you're dressed in a silky dress that hugs to your body like cotton to hair strands. We go out and grab a bite. I bite and lick my lips as I stare across the table and behold your beauty. I picture my tongue all over your body but I hold back as my being becomes erect and my pants feel tight. The waiter approaches our table after our meal and asks, " do you guys want to look at the dessert menu?" I make a wish that you say no because I hope we can be each other's dessert tonight. You say no. We head to the car and just as I open the door for u, u turn around and I kiss u. We kiss for mi...

When it comes to sex, it is highly pertinent that the man knows his way around the bedroom or how to adequately explore the woman's anatomy in order to satisfy the woman or help her achieve orgasm. Helping a woman achieve orgasm is key in establishing a healthy sexual relationship or relationship in general as men are not as complex as women in achieving orgasms. The fundamentals of getting a woman sexually aroused or get to a point where achieving orgasms is clearly outlined in my previous blog. So, as much as some of the male readers may want to skip that blog, I strongly recommend you read that blog to get immersed in the basics of what to do to please the woman in the bedroom. So, since we are up to speed to what "foreplay" truly means and how it can be applied in a sexual relationship between couples, let us examine "play" or what every woman wants or seeks from their male partner in the bedroom. i) Every woman needs a man that knows what they are doing...

Marriage is not only sacred but instrumental  to the union of a man and woman who have made the decision to commit to one another irregardless of any situation that may arise. Well at least that is my philosophy when it comes to marriage.  When two people enter a long-term relationship, in most cases it leads to marriage.  Most people use marriage and wedding interchangeably because they are similar. However it is important to note that both are different.  A marriage involves the decision and commitment of the relationship while a wedding is the celebration of that marriage.  It is an amazing and beautiful spectacle when you walk down the street or arrive at a place and opportuned to see an old couple who you happen to discover have been married for multiple years.  It depicts love as a lifestyle with underpinnings carved into the wavelengths of eternal and true feelings. I was having a conversation with a friend when getting married to the right person ca...

An avid reader writes, "I have been with this guy for over 2 years and lately he has not been into me as he normally used to be. Is he cheating on me? Should I confront him?    First I'd like to apologize on not replying to your question earlier than now. I believe when you said he has not been into you as he normally used to be, you mean there's a distancing or disconnect from how things used to be. It is understandable that you feel that he could be cheating on you. However, that may not be the case. There are a lot of contributing factors to the issue at hand. 1) He may be going through something in his life that has his attention. Stress from other areas of life or adjusting to new life situations may be a contributing factor to his new behavior.  2) You two may be dissociated emotionally in some ways that need to be addressed. There may be areas in your relationships that may not be the greatest that needs some attention. The result of those attention seek...

An avid reader sent me a message days ago on on social media and asked me the duration of a relationship before it should materialize into marriage. It is a great dating question and i thought i make it into a blog for this month (since February is termed love month). When two people go into a relationship, the expectation is that it ends in marriage or some sort of longtime union especially if they are both marriage ready. When I say marriage ready, I mean they are both mature in age and have some sort of financial or career stability. So back to the question, how long does it take for a relationship to mature into marriage?  Well, it is dependent on three factors.  It depends on the two individuals, where they are at in life and where they are at in the relationship.  The two individuals have to be in sync and be at the same point mentally and emotionally to consider getting married to each other. They also have to be where they want to be in life to be ready to conver...

Dearest you, When I embarked on the journey of writing blogs, it was just my way of putting my thoughts on paper. Well in this case on the net.  It was a little way of me connecting with everyone around the world.  I was nervous writing/posting my first blog (she won't call him handsome) not because of lack of ideas or my writing, but merely about how it would be received by readers.  My first blog which I posted in May of 2016 received tremendous reviews from colleagues, friends and strangers who continue to be avid readers. For the love you've shown me, I want to thank you all. I appreciate all of you.  It has been a great year for me although I still want to achieve more and gain greater heights in 2018. Can you believe it's already December? It sure feels like it was just yesterday when we were wishing people good tidings of the New Year. The year started out with me taking the lead on organizing a donation drive for two charities at my workplace to help the le...

Last month's blog discussed the role of a man in a relationship. What a man should do or needs to do when in a relationship. It was one of my favorite blogs to write and I suggest you read it if you are yet to do so. This month's blog focuses on what a woman needs to do or should be doing in a relationship. In short, it will discuss the role of a woman in a relationship. So what is a woman's role? Well a woman is an accessory to a man. In other words, a man is not complete without the right woman for him. Consider a man who is wearing a suit with no shoes, tie, belt and so on. That man looks good from a POV but as a whole, desperately is in need of accessories to complete his ensemble. This does not mean that a man cannot exist without a woman.  He sure can but without the presence of the right woman in his life, he leads an incomplete one. The importance of a woman in a relationship cannot be overstated. A woman's role in a relationship is to help the man and add subst...

It is evident that the world we live in is hinged on relationships. Relationships is our tool of perception and modus operandi in our everyday life. If you're an avid reader of my blogs, you will notice that I seem to focus more on love relationships. What is a love relationships? Well love relationships are relationships that are borne out of attraction and longing to express heartfelt feelings and possibly spend a lifetime with someone special to you.  For this type of relationship to work, it is highly important for both parties in the relationship to be knowledgeable of their roles in order to effectively do what is required of them in the relationship.  So what is the role of the man in a relationship? Well the man in a relationship is like a driver of a vehicle.  He should know when to slow down, accelerate and pump the brakes. The use of the symbol vehicle here refers to the relationship.  Wonder why women prefer a man that has a car? The reason is not to have...

It's February. Although it's the shortest calendar month, it is a special month because it is black history month - a month in the year that is used to reflect on the history of black people, their heroes, their past, their present and the future. In the month of February, the culture and the significance of the black people in the society are highlighted. The month of February also determines the classification of the current calendar year i.e a leap year. February is also universally known or referred to as the love month since it houses the day couples and families all over celebrate as valentine's day. It's a day set aside annually to make that special person in your life feel special.  Personally, I do not agree with celebrating someone special on one day as I see Valentine's day as a holiday that enriches the pockets of corporations and businesses.  I believe that appreciating those you love or cherish should be done on a daily basis no matter how small that a...