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Marriage is a marathon, not a race.

Marriage is not only sacred but instrumental  to the union of a man and woman who have made the decision to commit to one another irregardless of any situation that may arise. Well at least that is my philosophy when it comes to marriage.  When two people enter a long-term relationship, in most cases it leads to marriage.  Most people use marriage and wedding interchangeably because they are similar. However it is important to note that both are different.  A marriage involves the decision and commitment of the relationship while a wedding is the celebration of that marriage.  It is an amazing and beautiful spectacle when you walk down the street or arrive at a place and opportuned to see an old couple who you happen to discover have been married for multiple years.  It depicts love as a lifestyle with underpinnings carved into the wavelengths of eternal and true feelings. I was having a conversation with a friend when getting married to the right person came up as a topic. Our points centered on reasons why people get into wrong relationships and marriages. The evidence of bad relationships or marriages can be defined through the divorce rates in the world today.  The irony is that those couples who part ways after marriage is that they were happy with each other and saw each other as each other's soulmate at a point in time. So why do people end up in bad relationships or marriages? A better question is how does one enter there right relationship or marriage? As you know relationships are hard and requires hard work especially after the honeymooning phase of the relationship.  The honeymoon phase of any relationship is always a happy one where the lenses of the two individuals are blurred on the not so good qualities of their partners. To enter into the right relationship or marry the right way, I believe it is important for the people involved to have a good understanding of themselves before entering a relationship.  Secondly,  communication is really important when entering a relationship.  The two parties should have a thorough conversation that is honest and specific about expectations and beliefs that revolve around a relationship.  Lastly, it is highly recommended that major decisions like moving in together, getting married or making financial collaborative decisions not be made during the honeymoon phase of a relationship since those decisions can be based on blurred euphoric feelings. It is  important to note that marriage is not a race but a marathon.  It is better to get married at a later age than rushing into it earlier on only to get out of it moments later.

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