Relationships - you make it or break it!

An avid reader writes, "I have been with this guy for over 2 years and lately he has not been into me as he normally used to be. Is he cheating on me? Should I confront him?    First I'd like to apologize on not replying to your question earlier than now. I believe when you said he has not been into you as he normally used to be, you mean there's a distancing or disconnect from how things used to be. It is understandable that you feel that he could be cheating on you. However, that may not be the case. There are a lot of contributing factors to the issue at hand. 1) He may be going through something in his life that has his attention. Stress from other areas of life or adjusting to new life situations may be a contributing factor to his new behavior.  2) You two may be dissociated emotionally in some ways that need to be addressed. There may be areas in your relationships that may not be the greatest that needs some attention. The result of those attention seek...

Last month's blog discussed the role of a man in a relationship. What a man should do or needs to do when in a relationship. It was one of my favorite blogs to write and I suggest you read it if you are yet to do so. This month's blog focuses on what a woman needs to do or should be doing in a relationship. In short, it will discuss the role of a woman in a relationship. So what is a woman's role? Well a woman is an accessory to a man. In other words, a man is not complete without the right woman for him. Consider a man who is wearing a suit with no shoes, tie, belt and so on. That man looks good from a POV but as a whole, desperately is in need of accessories to complete his ensemble. This does not mean that a man cannot exist without a woman.  He sure can but without the presence of the right woman in his life, he leads an incomplete one. The importance of a woman in a relationship cannot be overstated. A woman's role in a relationship is to help the man and add subst...

It is evident that the world we live in is hinged on relationships. Relationships is our tool of perception and modus operandi in our everyday life. If you're an avid reader of my blogs, you will notice that I seem to focus more on love relationships. What is a love relationships? Well love relationships are relationships that are borne out of attraction and longing to express heartfelt feelings and possibly spend a lifetime with someone special to you.  For this type of relationship to work, it is highly important for both parties in the relationship to be knowledgeable of their roles in order to effectively do what is required of them in the relationship.  So what is the role of the man in a relationship? Well the man in a relationship is like a driver of a vehicle.  He should know when to slow down, accelerate and pump the brakes. The use of the symbol vehicle here refers to the relationship.  Wonder why women prefer a man that has a car? The reason is not to have...

Our past has an influence on our present relationships and that is what this month's blog will discuss in detail.  Relationship is a broad phenomena but in this blog, the word relationship will only refer to love relationships i.e relationships between couples. Relationships entail hard work and commitment.  Many people don't realize this because they get lost in the happy and eye-appealing moments in a relationship e.g the happy couple pictures, the relationship nicknames, the romance and so on. When people witness those parts of a relationship, they get drawn or become interested in forming a relationship.  As much as everyone deserves to be loved, relationships are not meant for everyone. The suffix "-ship" symbolizes two people on a ship and being able to steer the ship in the right direction amidst any turbulence along the way. When two people are committed and pledge loyalty to each other, it involves work and sacrifice from both parties. Sometimes, this commitm...

I had another topic in mind to post for this month's blog but was somehow led to talk about breakups in relationship with regards to cheating on spouses. As we all know, relationships are part of our existence and started from our birth with our mothers to this present moment you're reading this. Relationships are our avenue to communicate with not just ourselves but with our surroundings. In other words, relationships are the propelling force that wields our longevity in society. Relationships can come in many forms: a professional relationship, a familial relationship, a social relationship or a love relationship and so on. In this blog I'll focus on the love relationship. When two people fall in love, the world which we know to be as a mean and nasty one magically becomes the happiest place to be for these two people as a result of the magical nature of love. This is because love stimulates the brain chemical or hormone that is known as oxytocin which is also known as...

Every day we wake up,roll out of bed, check our phones to stay connected to the social world. We shower, grab a bite and run off to our jobs. We come back from our jobs, shower, grab a bite, catch a show or two on TV while staying connected to the social world, then we go to sleep. This becomes a cycle everyday. We become robots following a routine, while our relationship with God suffers. We forget God, well maybe its a stretch to say we forget Him but we keep God in storage. We keep Him in our metaphorical boxes for later use.We push Him to the sidelines till we run out of options or when we are greeted with problems, and solutions become a stranger to us. We become lost in the fast paced life that we are now enslaved to, which debars us from appreciating God's presence and blessings. Giving thanks to God for giving us the breath of life, good health, and ability to make wealth becomes a foreign language our minds and mouths find difficult to...

Ever wondered why to every left there is a right? And to every right there is a wrong? why there is a male and a female? Why there is a black and a white? Why there is a husband and there is a wife and why you are different from everyone you see around you? These opposites spell out diversity and balance but what they signify the most is relationship. Relationship is the bedrock of our existence. It's the foundation out of which we were formed and forged into life. With no relationship with each other, there would be no I nor You. There would be no us. However, today the word or the phenomena, relationship has been contorted to fit certain people's definition of a relationship to satisfy their own needs or interests. Many people have suffered hurt at the hands of these people who have tainted the true meaning of a relationship. Relationships revolve around true love and I use true love because that word, love has also has been misused to mislead people's em...

When you see a exotic car or a nicely built mansion, it's fair to say that you are enthralled by the outer beauty of that car or house because that is what your eyes are drawn to. Although, that car or house looks appealing on the outside, the real beauty of that car lies in the engine and its other internal parts, which fosters its' movement and durability on the road. The real beauty of that house is in its' foundation, since the foundation and the inner pillars provide stability and structure to that house. Hence, the reason why builders/ architects and car manufacturers spend more time on the foundations of a house and on the engine/internal fixtures of a car than on the external fixtures.  Humans are not different. Our real beauty stems from our inner self and facilitates our relations with others around us. However, we tend to focus more on our outer self by incorporating the use of cosmetic products like make-up to enhance ourselves while ignoring the inner self. W...

The heightened media influence in the world today has led to a lot of changes in how things are viewed or perceived. As anything that brings about change, it has brought along things of good and bad. The world we live in, is a world that revolves around sight (what you see) and as such, dwells on the outward reflection of a person. When you watch the Oscars or the Grammys on the TV, you hear comments of how well dressed or how good look someone looks. The outer self gets the most praise while the inner self rarely gets discussed. Also, the rise in popularity and the inception of new social media applications (apps) and sites such as Facebook, Twitter, snap chat, Instagram and so on also adds to the alteration in our relations with each other. For instance, some females now focus on getting likes and followers or friend requests at the price of objectifying themselves on social media. Now there is nothing wrong with making friends on social media apps/sites but making those friends in ...

Women in general are created to perfection. Their well-proportioned facial features, bodacious curves and innate cat-like walks are some of many things women possess that drive men insane. Traditionally, it has been the duty of the man to acknowledge a woman’s appearance or beauty. Most people would agree that it is the gentleman’s thing to do. A man who takes a woman out on a date is expected to compliment her appearance or beauty if he wants to score a second date with her. Admiration comments are also expected from husbands and boyfriends. Many couples have had fights that stemmed from the husband not complimenting their wives’ appearance. This stresses the importance of verbally acknowledging a woman’s appearance. However, it is also important for the woman to acknowledge the men on their appearance because men do appreciate those words and compliments. Words like “You are so handsome”, “I love that color on you. It makes you look more attractive” makes a man feel like a million ...