S. E. X: What she wants (Play) - The final chapter

When it comes to sex, it is highly pertinent that the man knows his way around the bedroom or how to adequately explore the woman's anatomy in order to satisfy the woman or help her achieve orgasm. Helping a woman achieve orgasm is key in establishing a healthy sexual relationship or relationship in general as men are not as complex as women in achieving orgasms. The fundamentals of getting a woman sexually aroused or get to a point where achieving orgasms is clearly outlined in my previous blog. So, as much as some of the male readers may want to skip that blog, I strongly recommend you read that blog to get immersed in the basics of what to do to please the woman in the bedroom. So, since we are up to speed to what "foreplay" truly means and how it can be applied in a sexual relationship between couples, let us examine "play" or what every woman wants or seeks from their male partner in the bedroom.

i) Every woman needs a man that knows what they are doing or is confident in the bedroom. A man that has some knowledge of what a woman wants or needs in the bedroom. A woman can get turned off if a man is unsure of what to do at any point in the bedroom as this distracts the focus of the woman and minimizes the likelihood of her reaching climax. In some cases, some women who are dominant and love to lead in the bedroom do not mind if the man has poor knowledge of what to do in the bedroom in order to satisfy the woman sexually.
ii) Every woman wants to feel sexy to their mate during sex to achieve orgasms. Women are very self aware and may not have the greatest self esteem of how they look. It is the job of the man to reassure the woman that she is all that and a bag of chips. Telling the woman that she looks sexy or that she is beautiful or even how you adore her body is a great way to make her feel at ease and aid in arousing her to visit orgasm central.
iii) Touch is very important to women during sex as it communicates affection. The use of touch can be tricky as some women have sensitive skin and may not want to be touched at certain parts of their body. The key is to explore your partner's body and figure out what they like or do not like. Most women love being gently but firmly grabbed by the neck during sex. This expresses masculinity and raw sexuality to the woman and helps keeps her engaged during sex. Fondling her breasts, gently stroking her nipples, grazing her areolas in a circular motion, running your fingers down her thighs and stroking her clitoris gently but sensually is a big turn on for women. Since those areas mentioned can be sensitive and become tender, the use of oil, lubricants or saliva can make the experience more enjoyable for the woman. It is important to note that the man needs not to be a gentleman in the bedroom or shy. You're the boss in there so feel free to spank her every now and then. She's been bad and needs to be taught a lesson.
iv) Women, most not all enjoy kissing and oral stimulation. Kissing a woman and engaging in oral stimulation on a woman is like dancing. It's different with every woman but you'll have to explore to find out what your partner likes or enjoys or in this context, how to dance with your partner. The woman always lets you know if you are doing a good job. She either moans, pushes your head down towards her vagina (during oral stimulation) or pushes you away because she is unable to contain the electric impulses she is experiencing. That is not the time to stop. It just is a code for you to continue with what you're doing and take her to the destination of the journey you're leading her to. When performing oral sex on a woman, it is important that you just don't focus on the vagina or on making the woman climax. It is not to be seen as a job but a fun experience so do not overthink it. Just rap to her sugary lips and leave her speaking in tongues.
v) Variety - Women want variety during sex. This makes the sex less boring or predictable. It makes it less of work and more of a fun experience. Introducing the use of toys, handcuffs, whips, role playing etc in the bedroom can provide the variety a woman needs in the bedroom. However, variety is recommended for long term relationships and not new or maturing relationships since it is more receptive and effective then.
vi) Maintaining eye contact and being present with the woman during sex is one of the most important thing that a woman needs from a man during sex. This is because when a man is focused on the woman during sex, it helps in solidifying the sensual bond and making the sexual experience a more enjoyable and pleasurable one. Women appreciate when the man is present and is attentive to them during sex. So, focus your eyes on her not like a creep though, but sensually.
vii) Utilising slow songs, candles and aromas/incense can aid in creating an atmosphere for heightened eroticism. However, using these sensual aids are recommended occasionally as you do not want it to be a constant. Sometimes, spontaneous sex feels better than one that is planned.
There may be other things that your female partner enjoys when it comes to sex and as a man (the lead), it is your responsibility to find out. The best way to find out is by asking the woman what she does like or does not like during sex.
As a bonus, I've added this part about things that aid in achieving an enjoyable sexual experience. Consuming foods that are high in zinc, vitamin B, protein and iron can aid in increasing libido which in turn can lead to achieving satisfaction during sex. Coffee and saffron are natural stimulants as well, so ingesting these before sex may take the sex to another level. Just remember to get rid of that coffee breath. There is nothing attractive about it. Utilising the bonus tips along with the aforementioned points are guaranteed to help in achieving orgasms for your female partner during sex and keep her satisfied.

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