When will it lead to marriage?

An avid reader sent me a message days ago on on social media and asked me the duration of a relationship before it should materialize into marriage. It is a great dating question and i thought i make it into a blog for this month (since February is termed love month). When two people go into a relationship, the expectation is that it ends in marriage or some sort of longtime union especially if they are both marriage ready. When I say marriage ready, I mean they are both mature in age and have some sort of financial or career stability.
So back to the question, how long does it take for a relationship to mature into marriage? Well, it is dependent on three factors. It depends on the two individuals, where they are at in life and where they are at in the relationship. The two individuals have to be in sync and be at the same point mentally and emotionally to consider getting married to each other. They also have to be where they want to be in life to be ready to convert the relationship into marriage. Lastly, they need to want the same thing and be on the same page. It all boils down to communication. Implementing effective communication strategies (e.g active listening etc)into a relationship is key to enhancing the relationship and syncing both parties. Active listening is very instrumental not just in communicating your needs or feelings to your partner but also informs him or her that you're attentive and do care about them as a person and their feelings. Therefore, the duration for a dating relationship to mature into a relationship is based on the two individuals and their commonalities in goals and interests. It may take 3 months, a year, 5 years or a decade. It is also important that the two parties in a relationship not to feel pressured by societal demands or requirements to get married at a time that is not their right time for marriage. Marriage needs not be rushed in because something that significant and beautiful needs to be well planned and executed.

Key points to remember
A. Communication is key in a relationship. Do not just listen to your partner. Actively listen.
B. Do not be pressured to get married at a time that is not right for your relationship. Build your relationship till it is mature for marriage.

P.S. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comment section.

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