Walk away, don't look back!

Besides holding a newborn baby or getting a load of it's smile, being with someone you love and care about is the most beautiful thing you can experience in your life. The honeymoon period filled with the barrage of pet names, the calls, the texts, the holding of hands, and kissing in public while ignoring stares from people. Being in a relationship is fulfilling and is part of our growth not just as social beings but as individuals. As I have penned down in previous blogs, relationships involve hard work and commitment. It entails putting up with someone else that might have different behaviors, characteristics and habits that may not always align well with yours. It involves placing that person's needs above yours in some instances. In other words, relationships are part-time jobs/probation periods that sometimes lead to full-time jobs/marital life. As beautiful as a relationship can be, sometimes it turns sour and has to end for both parties to lead a happy life. Many couples linger on in a relationship for the wrong reason or because they fail to realize when to leave or end a relationship. Which leads to the question when is the right time to exit a relationship. There are a plethora of factors that are telltale signs that should alert you it's time to leave a relationship. However, I will point out 3 factors that are significant indicators. The indicative factors that should alert you on leaving a relationship are:
1) Dreams/Life goals: When the person you are in a relationship with looks down on/ discredits your dreams or life goals because they think it is not as important as theirs or for other reasons, then it's time to leave that relationship.
2) Respect: Lack of respect in a relationship in any form or manner is definitely a red flag and calls for you leave the relationship.
3) Time: When the person in a relationship with you is nonchalant about making time to spend time with you for no relevant reason(s), you gotta leave. Additionally, if he/she does not intend to make changes or see the reason to make changes to accommodate you in his/ her schedule, then there's no longer a reason to remain in the relationship.

Note: Any relationship that does not make you better in any area of your life, inspire you or motivate you to be greater than you were before entering the relationship is not the right relationship for you. Knowing when to leave the relationship that is not for you leads you faster to the relationship tailored for you.

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