Past relationships and failures

We all have a story. Sometimes we tell our stories in our dealings with others and how we live our lives in the world today. Our story are part of our make up and what defines us. However, some of those stories are not the greatest to reflect on because of the sadness that is linked to them. For Instance, past relationships and our failures are part of our lives that we naturally tend to discuss less of because of how we will be perceived or judged by people around us. We live in a world where people respect our strengths and frown on our weaknesses. They admire our successes but judge our failures. The truth is that we are not one without the other. We are a combination of our failures and successes. An add up of our strengths and weaknesses. We cannot exist without another.
We should not try to forget our past relationships because of the hurt they remind our hearts of or the sadness and tears they bring to our faces. Our past relationships are there to educate us of what to embrace and what to avoid. What to run to or run from. They are all learning curves and events that we should be thankful for. I know I am thankful for my past relationships because it not only was a learning curve but helped shape who I am today. It is important to note that when it comes to past relationships, some people in our lives are not meant to make it to the next stages of our lives. Some people are meant for a page in our lives, some for a chapter or chapters while some for the whole journey.
We should not try to forget our failures as well. The not so good times or our misfortunes as they are all instrumental in shaping us to be wiser, stronger and wiser. Our failures lets us know who our true friends are, our strengths and weaknesses, and the path of life we are meant to follow. Our past relationships and failures are our GPS to our future. It's our storybook and not something to be ashamed of. We should celebrate it because a wise man does not forget any page in the chapters of his book. All the pages make up each chapter and each chapter make up the book. When we reflect on our past relationships and failures, we set up ourselves for a successful future and meaningful relationships.

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