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Men choose to marry this type of women...sometimes.

A little over a week ago, I was involved in a conversation with a friend of mine who showed me a thread of Instagram posts. These posts centered on the idea that men married women that were available at the time these men were ready to settle down rather than women they are in love with.  This seemed interesting to me and got me thinking.  Is there some truth to this? Do i think it applies to all men? Yes I think there's some truth to it and no i do not think it applies to all men. I believe there are significant number of men that do fall in love with the girl they marry and there are some men who get married based on availability. Human beings are beings of choices and preferences.  Both men and women have qualities that they want in a mate be it physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. Since, we do not live in a perfect world where we get everything we want or need, we prioritize our preferences in a mate and choose the things we need versus the things we want when we date.  However, there is a thin line between who we date and who we are in love with. 
Men as you know are termed hunters.  In other words, we are born with the innate sense of seeking out a mate. So how come a significant number of men end up getting married to females who are available rather than the ones they are in love with? Well dating can be challenging.  As I aforementioned, there's a thin line between who we date and who we are in love with. This means that a man could date a woman, start a relationship with this woman, and get married to her.  He may love her but not be in love with her but he can choose to marry her for different reasons that seem to him at that moment as a need rather than a want. Years ago I was in love with this girl. She was about 5 years older than me.  We attended the same university for the same program in my undergrad years. She was everything I wanted in a wife and I loved her daughter as mine.  She was ahead of me in school by couple of years and when I was halfway into my program, she was on the verge of graduating. Her biological clock was  running out and she wanted to get married.  I was not ready at that moment so we eventually broke up. As sad as it was and for reasons she may not like me to date, I could not make her wait till I was fully established or ready for marriage.  Why did i tell this short personal story? Some men may be in love with a female but similar reasons may defer them from getting married to that female while they decide later on in life to get married to available mates according to their priority of preferences. For Instance, a man may choose to marry a woman based on qualities at that point in time that seem as a need versus a want.  A fully established man may choose to get married to an educated, driven and independent woman who he loves over a woman who he might be in love with who has qualities that appear to be what he wants and not what he needs.  There may be other reasons that could explain the reason a significant number of men choose to marry an available woman versus a woman he is in love with. However, this is my theory.

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P.S.If you have different theories on this topic, I'd love to hear it in the comment section.

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