Test your friendships

As you know, friends are great influencers of our growth as human beings. In other words, your friends have the power to make or break you.. This is because you let them in to your life and give them access to your secrets and pieces of information that others do not have. Forming a friendship with someone else is important as it helps to give you insight on how to deal with issues in your current or future love relationships. Due to the significance of the role that friends play in one's life, it is important to carefully select friends that will promote your growth as an individual or person rather than the opposite. My previous blog talks about success and how it can affect friendships since some friends are built or destined for a particular phase in your life. So how do you identify friends that are tailored to your growth or life goals? You test them. It is important to test the people who are close to you. Asking questions or making requests that can assist in identifying the real character or intention of a friend is pertinent if you intend to have the right set of people around you. To give an example, if there is a friend that you have been there for in different ways on different occasions. You have given your time and resources to them at their lowest point or when they are in need. However, when you need the same person in your time of need, they choose not to help especially when you know they are able to help, then revaluation of the friendship is imminent. The aforementioned friend is an example of a "friend" who does not have a genuine interest in your growth as a person since he or she is unable to be there for when you need them (especially when you know they can). It is important to note that to achieve greatness, one has to surround themselves with the right set of people. People who genuinely care about their personal growth and that of their friends.

P. S. I want to use this medium to wish all the avid and new readers of my blog, happy holidays, Merry Christmas and a happy New year of 2019.

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