You have probably heard women say that qualities they want in a man they'd love to be theirs are tall, dark and handsome. One other quality that women also say they want in a man is an established man. This quality does not make waves like the rest, maybe because it's kind of expected that a man be established before looking to settle down with a woman. However, this remains but a fantasy to women because in reality, there are few women that can cope with an established man. They love the theory of having an established man in their lives but when it comes down to it and are somehow given the chance to turn that fantasy into reality, they shy away from it. In most instances, men who are established know what they want and may seem to favour what women want in a man but it comes with some baggage. A man that knows what he wants has principles and habits that have helped achieve him success. It can paint these type of men as being stubborn, defiant or inflexible. Women are not highly enthusiastic about these kind of men when in a relationship. This is because women are innately equipped with mothering capabilities that enable them help in the metamorphosis of a being, situation or event. Women are highly qualified than men in this instance so they are more drawn to men who need mothering or help with metamorphosis into an established man. Women also crave the gratitude that their mate throws their way. A significant number of women will rather choose the man that has potential or is unsure of what he wants to achieve in life than a man who is already established. As aforementioned, this is because women believe they can fix or change a man and make him better to prove their significant role in his success/life. It is imperative to note that the aforementioned theory of mine when it comes to women and dating established men does not apply to every woman. It only is a general statement since I am sure that there are some strong, independent women who are comfortable with a ready made man who they can build an empire with to reach new heights in life. These category of women lack patience in mothering a man who lacks the idea of their identity or ambition. However, in a sea of women, there are more women who belong in the first category than the latter.
P. S. This is just my theory. Not proven but I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments section
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P. S. This is just my theory. Not proven but I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments section
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I cudnt have said it better myself. #onpoint #wellsaid
ReplyDeleteAs a woman, i can agree with the premise of your thought, and concur with some gender role characteristics that may even disguise itself as evidence. For instance, women who shy away from established men in quite the same manner as men who flee from what appears to be a strong independent woman, would reveal, within those types of people, a slight insecurity and false sense of control that needs to be bolstered by their contribution to another person that comes out in praise. I think that speaks more of a common paradox amongst many individuals, to be afraid of the greatness within themselves moreso than being blinded by the glits and glamor shinning off another. To quote a line from a phenomenal poem: "..our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.. but great beyond measure.."
ReplyDeleteWith that being said, my perspective is skewed in my own personal bias, as i do not align myself nor my thought process in inferiority. I can agree that there are MANY who do and they sit on both ends of the gender spectrum
Some womens in today’s society are rather self sufficient to the point of not wanting or needing a man, however on the flip side of that there are women who are happy with mothering a man who lacks drive and determination in order to get gratification as a reward. No accomplished man/woman would ever consider a serious relationship with someone incapable of matching their drive and mindset.
ReplyDeletePersonally speaking I know what I want in a partner and would never settle for anything else.
Without mindset compatibility a relationship will never work.
I appreciate all your comments. Thanks :)
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