S. E. X: What she wants (Foreplay) - The first chapter

Sex is an integral part of a relationship between couples. Some may describe it as the it factor in a relationship because it enables couples reconnect and recalibrate to proceed in the relationship with a reinvigorated mindset and approach. In my previous blogs, I have stressed the significance of relationships and how they are underpinnings in our existence. Sex, on the other hand is fundamental and the only reason behind our existence. In other words, relationships came before sex and sex catalysed more relationships. Since it involves more than one person to have sex, it is important for each person to know what the other likes or does not like in the bedroom. As the saying goes, ladies first, this blog seeks to discuss what women want or like in the bedroom. Now that the background information regarding sex and how it relates to relationships has been highlighted, let us unfold the intent of the blog.

Women are emotional beings and as such are influenced by emotions in their actions. In terms of sex, the case is no different. The first rule of sex when it comes to women is that women unlike men need to feel comfortable and safe with a man before they can entertain or indulge in any sexual activity with that man. Hence, the reason why women need a man that shows interest in them to take the initiative to take them out on dates as this provides the opportunity for bonding and clarity for the woman. In other words, dates were created or exist because of women. Men do not really care about going on dates. If you asked men to be truthful about if they really thought dates mattered when it comes to getting to know a woman, majority if not all of those men will say that dates are not that important. However, to women, dates are pertinent to the creation of a relationship. This brings us to the second rule of sex when it comes to women. Sex without foreplay is aggravating to women because it objectifies them. Some men think that foreplay in relation to sex only includes sexual acts in the bedroom. This is far from the truth. This is the reason why it is pertinent to note that going on a date is a form of foreplay when it comes to women. Another form of foreplay is appreciating women through compliments, be it physically, mentally or emotionally based. Foreplay for women also includes intelligence and confidence in a man. An intelligent and confident man who takes charge when he needs to, does little to nothing to turn on a woman. This point stresses the need for women to feel comfortable and safe around a man. A man who exhibits confidence and take charge when need be provides safety for the woman and in turn makes the woman comfortable through excitement. The third rule of sex when it comes to women is that a woman needs a man who is capable to take charge in the bedroom. This does not mean that the man has to be dominant. It just means a man who knows when to step in and when to let the woman step in. I call it the push and pull back technique. Just as the act of sex with push and pull back rhythm, a woman appreciates a man that knows when to rhythmically take charge and pull back when it comes to sex. This is why women love a man that can dance since rhythm in dancing can be correlated to sex. Although, this is not always the case as some dancers can be poor performers in the bourdoir. Importantly, sex is an art as the woman's body needs to be explored artistically in the bedroom to achieve orgasm for the woman. It is not brain science that a woman needs a man that can help her achieve orgasm when it comes to sex. However, it is important to note that in order to achieve orgasm in the bedroom for a woman, a man must firstly stimulate the woman mentally outside of the bedroom.
Next month's blog will be a sequel to this topic and will be graphic as it will state sexual acts that men need to indulge in when it comes to keeping the woman excited and satisfied in the bedroom.

Nota Bene: Females are invited to leave comments on the blog to share their thoughts  regarding this blog. Experiences are also welcome. Men can learn or benefit from those comments.

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