Skip to main content

The myth of happiness

Happiness is a commodity of life, we humans strive to purchase at all cost. In some cases, we are stuck on it, feed on it and have withdrawal symptoms from running low or out of it. If we were to define happiness or put it in a sentence, we would say that happiness is the instant effect of realization or actualization. In other words, happiness is achieved when a goal or task is accomplished. Happiness, however is commonly mistaken or misinterpreted by us humans and therefore utilised wrongfully in our relationships with each other. Most people who are single, when asked what they look for in a mate, state that they want someone who make them happy. Also, people who are in a relationship, when asked what they like about their mate, usually state that he or she makes them happy. However, this is far from the truth. This is because no one has the power to make you happy. The truth is that you are responsible for your own happiness. Yes, people can be agents of helping you achieve your happiness but they are not responsible to actually make you happy. For instance, an athlete who has been training day and night for a championship can gain happiness from a great coach who leads him into winning the said championship. Although, that coach helped the athlete win the championship, the coach is not responsible for the happiness of the athlete. The happiness of the athlete is only dependent on the sacrifices, he or she made in the process. Happiness is personal. It is not something your mate or someone else can help you achieve.  Therefore, it is misleading or incorrect to state or require from someone to make you happy. It can only be achieved by you for you. So how do you make yourself happy? There are varieties of ways to achieve that. Let us discuss some. In this day and age of social media, it is important for one to focus more on reality than the onslaught of fictitious or make believe posts that flood different platforms of social media. Realising that not all that is advertised through posts on social media is real helps mitigate depression and in turn, enhance one's self-esteem. Also, cutting off activities and anything that does not add anything positive or fulfilment to your life is also helpful in achieving happiness. Although, all humans deserve happiness, it is fair to say that happiness is borne out of selfish and materialistic desires. Joy, on the other hand is selfless and operates on a different mechanism.
Joy can be achieved or altered through what you engage in or who you spend time with. Joy is a more spiritual feeling and does not come from accomplishing tasks. It can be tricky to distinguish between happiness and joy but one way to know one from another is that joy can be witnessed from truly appreciating someone's success or great achievements while happiness bears an albatross of selfish intentions. This means that when finding a mate or even a friend, it is pertinent to ensure he or she truly wishes the best of successes for you. A friend or mate who truly wishes the best of successes for you will always bring you joy and engage in avenues that empower you. In summary, happiness is mostly achieved when a task is achieved or a goal is reached while joy can be cultivated in relationships. Understanding the truth behind the myth of happiness when it comes to relationships can be highly instrumental to a better defined role of both parties in a relationship.

Instagram: innatelycrowned

Labels

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Find YOU

If you have read any of my blogs, you would know how I always emphasize the importance of relationships in our existence. Relationships not only gives meaning to our existence, but it also drives our daily routine and life. Our survival, adaptation and ability to exercise our emotions all stem from our engagements in different relationships. Therefore, it is safe to say that relationships play a key role in our lives. Every relationship we form with people is imperative to our growth as an individual, because those relationships in my many ways depicts who we are as a person. Our relationships with others may be important but the most important relationship we could ever form is the one we have with ourselves. Although, this is the most important relationship and the one that requires most of our energy and intentions towards building, it is the one we shy away from the most. We go into relationships with many people without actually having a proper understanding of who we are as a p...
1 comment
Read more

She won't call him handsome

Women in general are created to perfection. Their well-proportioned facial features, bodacious curves and innate cat-like walks are some of many things women possess that drive men insane. Traditionally, it has been the duty of the man to acknowledge a woman’s appearance or beauty. Most people would agree that it is the gentleman’s thing to do. A man who takes a woman out on a date is expected to compliment her appearance or beauty if he wants to score a second date with her. Admiration comments are also expected from husbands and boyfriends. Many couples have had fights that stemmed from the husband not complimenting their wives’ appearance. This stresses the importance of verbally acknowledging a woman’s appearance. However, it is also important for the woman to acknowledge the men on their appearance because men do appreciate those words and compliments. Words like “You are so handsome”, “I love that color on you. It makes you look more attractive” makes a man feel like a million ...
6 comments
Read more

Submissiveness in marriage

    The topic of women being submissive in marriage has been one that has drawn a lot of negative reactions from women in recent years. I believe this could be as a result of bad leadership from some men, the influence of social media on relationships, differences in eras in relation to women’s progression in the work force or society amongst other reasons. However, this topic is a sensitive one and one that goes beyond couple of reasonings that may fuel the negative connotations.  Couple of months ago, I had a conversation with a colleague who is a woman and our discussion centred on roles of women and men in a marriage. She argued that women and men are equal in a marriage and there is nothing as submissiveness that should be expected from a woman and that the man is not the leader or head of the household. So is this true? Are these the feelings or sentiment shared by women in marriages or those seeking to be in marriages? Although, I believe that God is the author of ...
Post a Comment
Read more