Relationships - you make it or break it!

 I spent some time with my mum today. We talked about a lot of things that revolved around me and life in general. The topic of marriage came up and we talked about how marriage and the idea of marriage had evolved over the years. Marriage back in her time and that of her parents or grand parents were based on the very basic things that mattered back then. Men chose to marry women who were polite, had a nice smile or simply just because they came from a good, reputable family. Those were the simpler times. Times when the parameters set for a mate can be argued to have been based on quality over quantity. Nowadays, marriage is a whole different ball game.  I believe everyone knows that marriage is a union of two souls to become one. However, some people going into marriage don't understand that it is a not a transactional relationship but one that is meant to collectively pull singular resources together to achieve an expected goal. This is because some women believe that the m...

For a human being to be fully functional in daily activities, he or she has to be sound in all 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, social, financial, vocational, emotional, spiritual, intellectual and environmental. Some human beings are functional in their day-to-day activities without being sound in all areas of wellness. When these dimensions of wellness in a person are not well maintained, such individual run on fumes like a car that has not had an oil change in a long time. The fast-paced nature of the world today makes it hard to maintain all those dimensions of wellness especially right now with the pandemic of coronavirus which currently has affected over 15 million people globally. Though this pandemic seems a significant issue that affects humanity, there is also another pandemic that has been a chronic terror in the black community. That is police brutality on black men and women. Police brutality and other effects of racism on black people for so long has crippled our prog...

I know I have not been blogging for a bit. I did this for many reasons as I try to reinvent myself in writing. I just came up with this poem/erotica, well at least that's what I will call it for now and I figured I share and take your mind off the terrible situation the world is in with COVID-19. Enjoy the read. Stay SAFE! Date night fantasies POV I  think about picking u up and you're dressed in a silky dress that hugs to your body like cotton to hair strands. We go out and grab a bite. I bite and lick my lips as I stare across the table and behold your beauty. I picture my tongue all over your body but I hold back as my being becomes erect and my pants feel tight. The waiter approaches our table after our meal and asks, " do you guys want to look at the dessert menu?" I make a wish that you say no because I hope we can be each other's dessert tonight. You say no. We head to the car and just as I open the door for u, u turn around and I kiss u. We kiss for mi...

This month has been a tough one for me since I have been called on by various friends to be there as a support or as an advice lender to get them through one situation or the other leaving me in a state of not knowing what to post for this month as a blog. So here goes nothing. Hopefully, the following paragraph of sentences blesses someone. Remember when we were little children and we craved adulthood so much that we hated the idea of being called kids or children. When our parents would say things like, "let me help you get dressed or let me help you with your bath" , we would reply, "I can do it myself". I'm a big boy /girl or simply, I'm big now were the phrases that followed suit. No one could blame us because adults seemed cool. It only seemed like they got it all figured out and knew something we did not know. They seemed grounded in life and were able to manouver through life with great poise. Little did we know that we had misjudged the book...

Happiness is a commodity of life, we humans strive to purchase at all cost. In some cases, we are stuck on it, feed on it and have withdrawal symptoms from running low or out of it. If we were to define happiness or put it in a sentence, we would say that happiness is the instant effect of realization or actualization. In other words, happiness is achieved when a goal or task is accomplished. Happiness, however is commonly mistaken or misinterpreted by us humans and therefore utilised wrongfully in our relationships with each other. Most people who are single, when asked what they look for in a mate, state that they want someone who make them happy. Also, people who are in a relationship, when asked what they like about their mate, usually state that he or she makes them happy. However, this is far from the truth. This is because no one has the power to make you happy. The truth is that you are responsible for your own happiness. Yes, people can be agents of helping you achieve your ha...

Single parenting is one of the hardest, if not the hardest responsibility one can take on because it involves sacrifice, time, and other factors that come in play with this great task. I can attest to this not because I'm a single parent but because for most of my life, I was raised by my mother. I saw first hand what she went through to mold me into the man I am now. That being said, I have the most respect for single parents who are dedicated in raising their children. Although, single parenthood is as difficult and time tasking as I aforementioned, single parents deserve love and as such engage in dating. When it comes to dating, we can all agree that both parties need to understand where each other is coming from in order for the relationship to work. This also applies to single parents and who they decide to date. Over the years, the percentage of women or men who are single parents has increased about 60 percent from 1976 till date. This means in today 's society, it is...

When it comes to sex, it is highly pertinent that the man knows his way around the bedroom or how to adequately explore the woman's anatomy in order to satisfy the woman or help her achieve orgasm. Helping a woman achieve orgasm is key in establishing a healthy sexual relationship or relationship in general as men are not as complex as women in achieving orgasms. The fundamentals of getting a woman sexually aroused or get to a point where achieving orgasms is clearly outlined in my previous blog. So, as much as some of the male readers may want to skip that blog, I strongly recommend you read that blog to get immersed in the basics of what to do to please the woman in the bedroom. So, since we are up to speed to what "foreplay" truly means and how it can be applied in a sexual relationship between couples, let us examine "play" or what every woman wants or seeks from their male partner in the bedroom. i) Every woman needs a man that knows what they are doing...