Relationships - you make it or break it!

Donald Trump, a known business man and TV personality is the 45th president of the United States of America. I remember being in a state of shock when he won the election last year and was inaugurated into office earlier this year.  Since the inception of his government, he has been controversial in his comments, actions and leadership style. This has caused a lot of hateful comments and criticism from celebrities.  Recent controversial comments from Trump include the racist comments regarding NFL players, belittling and preachy comments on Puerto Rico, Harvey Weinstein and Bob Corker. Trump's administration has brought about feelings of hate and disgust in people to the point that people have marched out in streets in protests as a means to voice their feelings. Although Donald Trump is a little child in an adult body because of his leadership judgment, mannerisms, choice of words and actions, he is just what America needs. This is because he is the most successful American p...

Besides holding a newborn baby or getting a load of it's smile, being with someone you love and care about is the most beautiful thing you can experience in your life. The honeymoon period filled with the barrage of pet names, the calls, the texts, the holding of hands, and kissing in public while ignoring stares from people. Being in a relationship is fulfilling and is part of our growth not just as social beings but as individuals. As I have penned down in previous blogs, relationships involve hard work and commitment. It entails putting up with someone else that might have different behaviors, characteristics and habits that may not always align well with yours.  It involves placing that person's needs above yours in some instances.  In other words, relationships are part-time jobs/probation periods that sometimes lead to full-time jobs/marital life. As beautiful as a relationship can be, sometimes it turns sour and has to end for both parties to lead a happy life. Many cou...

I had different topics that i wanted to discuss for this month's blog but i have struggled with this topic for a long period of time. I have seen it, heard it and lived it so i figured it is the best time to talk about it. Black people are the most talented and resourceful race in the world. We dominate sports, television, movies and music etc.  We are blessed with the intellect, creativity, mental and physical strength to accomplish set goals. However, we still are yet to progress as a people. We still wallow in mental and physical poverty. You'd think that with those innate qualities and talents, we'd be untouchable in making wealth but we are not. So what is the problem? Where did we go wrong as a people? Well the problem started many years ago when the first black person became a slave. We all know how the events of the slave trade era so I won't bore you with the details because this blog is not about slave trade. With all these innate qualities that makes us uniqu...

Last month's blog discussed the role of a man in a relationship. What a man should do or needs to do when in a relationship. It was one of my favorite blogs to write and I suggest you read it if you are yet to do so. This month's blog focuses on what a woman needs to do or should be doing in a relationship. In short, it will discuss the role of a woman in a relationship. So what is a woman's role? Well a woman is an accessory to a man. In other words, a man is not complete without the right woman for him. Consider a man who is wearing a suit with no shoes, tie, belt and so on. That man looks good from a POV but as a whole, desperately is in need of accessories to complete his ensemble. This does not mean that a man cannot exist without a woman.  He sure can but without the presence of the right woman in his life, he leads an incomplete one. The importance of a woman in a relationship cannot be overstated. A woman's role in a relationship is to help the man and add subst...

It is evident that the world we live in is hinged on relationships. Relationships is our tool of perception and modus operandi in our everyday life. If you're an avid reader of my blogs, you will notice that I seem to focus more on love relationships. What is a love relationships? Well love relationships are relationships that are borne out of attraction and longing to express heartfelt feelings and possibly spend a lifetime with someone special to you.  For this type of relationship to work, it is highly important for both parties in the relationship to be knowledgeable of their roles in order to effectively do what is required of them in the relationship.  So what is the role of the man in a relationship? Well the man in a relationship is like a driver of a vehicle.  He should know when to slow down, accelerate and pump the brakes. The use of the symbol vehicle here refers to the relationship.  Wonder why women prefer a man that has a car? The reason is not to have...

Our past has an influence on our present relationships and that is what this month's blog will discuss in detail.  Relationship is a broad phenomena but in this blog, the word relationship will only refer to love relationships i.e relationships between couples. Relationships entail hard work and commitment.  Many people don't realize this because they get lost in the happy and eye-appealing moments in a relationship e.g the happy couple pictures, the relationship nicknames, the romance and so on. When people witness those parts of a relationship, they get drawn or become interested in forming a relationship.  As much as everyone deserves to be loved, relationships are not meant for everyone. The suffix "-ship" symbolizes two people on a ship and being able to steer the ship in the right direction amidst any turbulence along the way. When two people are committed and pledge loyalty to each other, it involves work and sacrifice from both parties. Sometimes, this commitm...

I had another topic in mind to post for this month's blog but was somehow led to talk about breakups in relationship with regards to cheating on spouses. As we all know, relationships are part of our existence and started from our birth with our mothers to this present moment you're reading this. Relationships are our avenue to communicate with not just ourselves but with our surroundings. In other words, relationships are the propelling force that wields our longevity in society. Relationships can come in many forms: a professional relationship, a familial relationship, a social relationship or a love relationship and so on. In this blog I'll focus on the love relationship. When two people fall in love, the world which we know to be as a mean and nasty one magically becomes the happiest place to be for these two people as a result of the magical nature of love. This is because love stimulates the brain chemical or hormone that is known as oxytocin which is also known as...