Relationships - you make it or break it!

We all have a story. Sometimes we tell our stories in our dealings with others and how we live our lives in the world today.  Our story are part of our make up and what defines us. However,  some of those stories are not the greatest to reflect on because of the sadness that is linked to them. For Instance,  past relationships and our failures are part of our lives that we naturally tend to discuss less of because of how we will be perceived or judged by people around us. We live in a world where people respect our strengths and frown on our weaknesses. They admire our successes but judge our failures. The truth is that we are not one without the other. We are a combination of our failures and successes. An add up of our strengths and weaknesses. We cannot exist without another. We should not try to forget our past relationships because of the hurt they remind our hearts of or the sadness and tears they bring to our faces.  Our past relationships are there to educat...

I was born into a christian home and raised as one. Throughout my childhood and teenage years,  I remember spending countless hours in churches and various christian assembly.  I still am a devout christian and believer and lover of Christ. However,  I am not one to say that my faith is without blemish or error as it surely has lots and has become a global joke. Christians have now become sheep led by leaders who do not even understand what being a leader means.  Leaders who talk the talk but can't walk the talk.  Leaders who go into office to chase after titles,  money and fame. Gone are the days when pastors or Christian leaders go into office to make a positive difference in people's lives.  Gone are the days people shy away from being a Christian leader because of the difficulty or meekness of office or how they're perceived by in public or even as a result of the little money they make. Nowadays pastors consider themselves rockstars prophesying fa...

I had a different blog that I wanted to post for this month but i just could not finish that said blog for some reason. I scratched the surface for words, sentences and paragraphs to complete that blog but I still could not. It was then I realized that it was not the right time for that blog to be published. So, this morning, I woke up with a message for all avid or new readers of my blog.  When we are born into this earth, the first people we come to know are our family. The ones that made us, show us love and try to protect us from harm and the real truth of the world till we are mature or old enough to deal with those truths. And the reality is that those truths are some hard and cold truths that we will ever face in life. That truth is that the world is a beautiful place, however filled with people that may not share the same love in their heart that we had once experienced. The reality is that we leave a home that is filled or supposedly filled with love from our parents and f...

Marriage is not only sacred but instrumental  to the union of a man and woman who have made the decision to commit to one another irregardless of any situation that may arise. Well at least that is my philosophy when it comes to marriage.  When two people enter a long-term relationship, in most cases it leads to marriage.  Most people use marriage and wedding interchangeably because they are similar. However it is important to note that both are different.  A marriage involves the decision and commitment of the relationship while a wedding is the celebration of that marriage.  It is an amazing and beautiful spectacle when you walk down the street or arrive at a place and opportuned to see an old couple who you happen to discover have been married for multiple years.  It depicts love as a lifestyle with underpinnings carved into the wavelengths of eternal and true feelings. I was having a conversation with a friend when getting married to the right person ca...

A little over a week ago, Anthony Bourdain, a famous chef and well traveled lover of diverse cultures and food took his own life. He lived and struggled with depression with little knowledge to the general public.  Days before his death, it was Kate Spade, a designer and business mogul who had taken her life while struggling and living with depression.  Depression is a chronic condition that plays heavily on an individual's mood and behavior. In most cases, depression is coined, the silent killer, because it slowly kills those who live with it till they eventually take their own lives. And mostly, all these take place with little or no knowledge to close friends and family members. Depression knows no race, no social class, gender, religion etc. The passing of Bourdain raised an intimate discussion between my mom and I where she learned that I had struggled with suicidal ideations that stemmed from a depressed state during my teen years.  I had multiple times when I had...

What do women want from a man? This is a common question men normally ask when it comes to dating.  Men always say no one can figure out what a woman is thinking or what a woman wants.  Remember the 2000 romantic movie, what women wants, when Mel Gibson an advertising executive acquires the power to hear the thoughts of women. Well, in reality men don't have that luxury to know the thoughts of women to know what they want.  However, I think I have a good idea of what women need from a man.  So, listen up boys as I highlight the top 4 things a woman needs from a man.  Women always drool over the tall, dark and handsome man fantasy. Although that is a deal breaker for most if not all women, most women do not get married to those type of men. Rather women are more interested in other qualities. I think the most important quality  women need from a man is respect.  Now respect is an umbrella term that includes loyalty, honesty  and fairness. A woman w...

A little over a week ago, I was involved in a conversation with a friend of mine who showed me a thread of Instagram posts. These posts centered on the idea that men married women that were available at the time these men were ready to settle down rather than women they are in love with.  This seemed interesting to me and got me thinking.  Is there some truth to this? Do i think it applies to all men? Yes I think there's some truth to it and no i do not think it applies to all men. I believe there are significant number of men that do fall in love with the girl they marry and there are some men who get married based on availability. Human beings are beings of choices and preferences.  Both men and women have qualities that they want in a mate be it physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. Since, we do not live in a perfect world where we get everything we want or need, we prioritize our preferences in a mate and choose the things we need versus the things we want when ...