Relationships - you make it or break it!

I was a year when I first had my earliest experience with Micheal Jackson's songs. My mom actually said that on my first birthday, I tried to do a happy jump when songs like Beat it, Thriller, Bad, Smooth Criminal and the rest played. I was so inspired by Michael Jackson that when I was 3, I would wear my white socks on my right hand. He was the most popular singer songwriter and performer at that time and continues to inspire different artists, songs, genres and dance moves. He has influenced different generations and continues to do so to generations of new. This leads to the intent of this blog. Recently, Michael Jackson or as I call him, the real MJ was portrayed in a documentary, Leaving Neverland, as a pedophile who molested young children. In the documentary (that I refuse to waste my time on), 2 white males were interviewed and gave their statements on how MJ masturbated in front of them and touched them inappropriately. Apparently, there are more people who are also com...

You have probably heard women say that qualities they want in a man they'd love to be theirs are tall, dark and handsome. One other quality that women also say they want in a man is an established man. This quality does not make waves like the rest, maybe because it's kind of expected that a man be established before looking to settle down with a woman. However, this remains but a fantasy to women because in reality, there are few women that can cope with an established man. They love the theory of having an established man in their lives but when it comes down to it and are somehow given the chance to turn that fantasy into reality, they shy away from it. In most instances, men who are established know what they want and may seem to favour what women want in a man but it comes with some baggage. A man that knows what he wants has principles and habits that have helped achieve him success. It can paint these type of men as being stubborn, defiant or inflexible. Women are not hi...

I was seated on the subway train days ago headed to work when this homeless white lady got on and sat down across from me. She had a shopping cart with her that seemed to contain all her belongings. However, she didn't look concerned that she did not have much. When she took off her winter jacket, I noticed she had a worn out sweater. My heart sank. Minutes later, she put on her glasses and started knitting a neck scarf that seemed almost done. As I watched this lady, I felt terrible about myself and the rest of us that have more than her. All her belongings fit in a small shopping cart. She had on worn out clothes but her facial expressions did not match her appearance and socioeconomic status. She was calm and looked worry-free. A month ago, I was on a social media app when I came across some African children dancing to a song that was heard from the background. Although they were fully clothed, you could sense that they were impoverished as their surroundings told the story....

As you know, friends are great influencers of our growth as human beings. In other words, your friends have the power to make or break you.. This is because you let them in to your life and give them access to your secrets and pieces of information that others do not have. Forming a friendship with someone else is important as it helps to give you insight on how to deal with issues in your current or future love relationships. Due to the significance of the role that friends play in one's life, it is important to carefully select friends that will promote your growth as an individual or person rather than the opposite. My previous blog talks about success and how it can affect friendships since some friends are built or destined for a particular phase in your life. So how do you identify friends that are tailored to your growth or life goals? You test them. It is important to test the people who are close to you. Asking questions or making requests that can assist in identifying ...

Success is what everyone wants. It is what everybody craves and chases. We seek to gain a fraction of success in every thing we do. From waking up to making an impact at work that gets you recognition or hoping to do well in a course at school, success is all anyone thinks of and hopes for in our world today.  Achieving success is the reason we have role models in our lives. We model our actions and decisions after these people with the hope of being like or even better than them. However, people tend to forget that achieving success comes with a price that in most instances seem difficult to pay. The path to success mostly does encounter loneliness,  betrayal and doubts. To be actually successful or gain success in anything, we need to sacrifice few things in order to gain the greater good.  Our sacrifice to achieve success may interfere with the friendships we have built over the years.  Some friends can put you in a position to choose between continuing on the pat...

We all have a story. Sometimes we tell our stories in our dealings with others and how we live our lives in the world today.  Our story are part of our make up and what defines us. However,  some of those stories are not the greatest to reflect on because of the sadness that is linked to them. For Instance,  past relationships and our failures are part of our lives that we naturally tend to discuss less of because of how we will be perceived or judged by people around us. We live in a world where people respect our strengths and frown on our weaknesses. They admire our successes but judge our failures. The truth is that we are not one without the other. We are a combination of our failures and successes. An add up of our strengths and weaknesses. We cannot exist without another. We should not try to forget our past relationships because of the hurt they remind our hearts of or the sadness and tears they bring to our faces.  Our past relationships are there to educat...

I was born into a christian home and raised as one. Throughout my childhood and teenage years,  I remember spending countless hours in churches and various christian assembly.  I still am a devout christian and believer and lover of Christ. However,  I am not one to say that my faith is without blemish or error as it surely has lots and has become a global joke. Christians have now become sheep led by leaders who do not even understand what being a leader means.  Leaders who talk the talk but can't walk the talk.  Leaders who go into office to chase after titles,  money and fame. Gone are the days when pastors or Christian leaders go into office to make a positive difference in people's lives.  Gone are the days people shy away from being a Christian leader because of the difficulty or meekness of office or how they're perceived by in public or even as a result of the little money they make. Nowadays pastors consider themselves rockstars prophesying fa...